Lots of people exploring sexuality develop an interest in bondage, but bondage isn’t for everyone. Practicing bondage requires a lot of trust, the willingness to enjoy pleasure that’s given, and the courage to give what your partner needs too.

Couples who practice bondage say that it gives them an innate sense of togetherness, and a powerful feeling as a couple. Bondage is a very intimate form of sex based on pleasure, and selflessness.

The Pleasure Principal

Bondage, like sex, is not just a physical action. One of the most important aspects of bondage is trust. In bondage someone gives, and someone receives.

The person tied up is pleasured, and that person doesn’t have to give at that time. The person doing the giving is feeling aroused and empowered, but trust is the ultimate bond. Trust may be a natural aphrodisiac.

Bondage involves all of the senses, from the mere pleasure of seeing your lover dressed in hot, sexy attire like leather to blowing on your lover’s ankles while talking dirty to them, or smelling fragrant candles burning in the vicinity, and even feeling hot candle wax drip across your tummy. Other materials are often used for pleasure like leather, soft silks, and feathers too.

When a person is blindfolded, sensitivity to touch is heightened, and the body likes the feel of what the eyes cannot see. And that’s just a small taste.

Contemplating Bondage?

It’s important to understand your own attraction to bondage because it’s easy for some people carrying a power thirsty complex to be attracted to bondage. Bondage is not a game, nor does the practice of bondage support abusiveness, and anyone considering bondage needs to talk to their partner about the attraction to bondage.

People are attracted for many reasons. It could be the pure temptation of being allowed to enjoy an experience without giving back for a moment or the empowerment one feels when they can give a partner pleasure, and see it, and even the rush of being blindfolded or the pure feeling of being restrained at the mercy of their partner. Discuss it first.

Practicing Safe Bondage

Practitioners of bondage have created a lot of gadgets like handcuffs, collars, and other devices used for restraining. It’s never a good idea to travel to a remote location for bondage play just in case something goes wrong.

Let’s face it … who is going to find you in an abandoned warehouse in the middle of nowhere or way out in some farmer’s field blind folded, and tied to a post?

Bondage can be so rewarding with a partner, but not just ANY partner. It’s not a good idea to perform acts of bondage with a complete stranger.

It’s important to remember that some people have been injured practicing bondage; it is possible to get hurt if you have little knowledge, and some people do get carried away with the feeling of power. It’s important to be in a stable relationship.

Taking the First Step

If you and your partner decide to try bondage, start slow. Purchase a kit or individual items you’re attracted to. Kits offer a few items to play with, including blindfolds, handcuffs, maybe a nice soft whip for arousal, and nipple clamps. If purchased individually couples can tailor buy items they want without being stuck with something unwanted.

Watch movies about bondage, read a few books, or get a subscription to a magazine about bondage. Educate yourself and above all, enjoy bondage if you choose. Sex is lots of fun when two people trust each other, and bondage is definitely fun.

If you’re keen to find out more about bondage, and the various different types you could try, have a look here - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bondage