It’s not always easy to find time to yourself at Christmas, when you’ve got family staying or friends visiting, but with these exciting sex positions to try out, we’re sure you’ll be longing to slip away for a bit to try them out.

A Christmas Sleigh Ride

A sleigh ride for two

For a great Christmas-themed ride that will send shivers of excitement through you both, why not try this position out?

To get into position, your partner should lie on his back on the bed or floor, then you should lower yourself onto him. Rather than sitting upright, the aim is to lean backwards and rest your arms on his legs.

If you’re flexible, this will be easier, but it’s well worth trying it for the experience alone. The big bonus for women is that your man has easy access to pleasure you externally too!

Silent Night

Silent night, orgasmic night...

If you’re hosting Christmas and have people staying, or are away at friends or family yourself this year, then here’s a position that’s perfect for a quiet spot of sneaky sex.

This position doesn’t involve loads of movement or noise, so shouldn’t make the bed or floor squeak too much. Get your partner to lie on his back with his legs straight out, then slowly lower yourself onto him. First aim for a sitting position, then carefully move your legs back and lie on top of him.

Although it can be tricky getting the position right, once you’re successfully in place, it can be an intimate way of having sex. All you need are small movements, but they can feel great for both of you.

Jiggy Jingle Baubles

Jingle all the way!

Christmas wouldn’t be right without mentions of jingle bells and baubles and this is a great position for jingling his balls!

This position gives women full control and can have men begging for more – fantastic! Your man should lie on his back with his legs slightly apart, then you lower yourself down onto him, facing in the direction of his feet.

You control the pace and get perfect access to his balls for as much jingling as you desire!

Super Pleasure for Singles

And if you’re single this Christmas, then don’t despair!

It’s the perfect time to focus on yourself and bring some much needed end of year pleasure into your life. To add some variety into your self-love, then why not treat yourself to a new sex toy or two?

Anyone for car sex?

If you’ve been off on a hot date, or a day out with your partner, and the need suddenly strikes, your car may seem like the ideal place to be. Of course, if you’ve got the back of a stretch limo to hand, then they’ll be plenty of space to unwind and indulge, but it’s not quite so roomy in the average car.

So, if you’re planning on having sex in the car anytime soon, here are our top six tips for getting the best out of the experience.

1. Pick a private place

When you’re in the mood, thinking about your immediate surroundings may not seem essential, but unless you want to be on public view, then do try and pick a private place. If you’re not into dogging, then remember to turn the car lights off, otherwise you could end up with an audience!

2. Make sure the car is parked

As much as you may be tempted to perform a sex act on your partner whilst they’re driving, it’s really not a safe or advisable option. So before you start getting carried away, always ensure the car is safely parked, with the handbrake on.

3. Choose your position

Car sex positions

Most cars are not that roomy for having sex in and, unless you want to risk the horn getting accidentally sounded, it may be best to choose the back seat or the passenger seat instead of the driver’s seat.

4. Be creative with the seats

Don’t forget that, although you may have a limited choice of seats to use for sex, car seats can be moved backwards or forwards. Tilting the passenger seat back may provide you with extra scope for your sexual experience.

5. Keep a blanket or coat handy

Feeling frisky?

If you’re planning a car sex night, then it’s hand to have a blanket handy. You could use it rolled up as a pillow under you or your partner’s head, under their back or to lie on. Plus, a blanket or coat is useful to be able to throw over you both if someone unexpectedly drives or walks by.

6. Clean up afterwards

Don’t forget to clean up the car afterwards or get rid of any evidence that you’ve had sex, like used condoms. Don’t just throw them out of the window though, dispose of them in a bin.

This is especially so if you’ve borrowed the car, hired it or are using a company car, as you don’t really want the embarrassment of someone finding out what’s actually being going on in the vehicle.

Are you a fan of car sex? Share your favourite car sex tips!

Sex toys for hot boys

A cock ring, or penis ring, is a widely used sex toy that is great for men. It can be made of various materials, such as rubber, leather or metal, and it’s worn on the base of the penis and sometimes the scrotum too.

The main purpose behind a cock ring is to keep the penis hard, but many models also have additional elements, like vibrators, built into them for extra pleasure.

Whether you’re new to cock rings and don’t know how to use cock rings, or used to using them, here five top tips for getting the best out of cock rings.

1. Get it on!

Some experts recommend putting on a cock ring when your penis is soft, but it’s actually easier if you’re semi-erect.

To put the cock ring on, it’s best to place it at the base of your penis, just behind the scrotum. Slowly put one testicle in, then another, then slip your penis in.

2. Try different cock rings

If you’re not totally sure which cock ring is right for you, give yourself the chance to try out several, so that you can find the model or type you prefer.

3. Enhance your cock ring experience with vibrations

There are average cock rings, and super duper cock rings with added excitement. If you want the latter, then it’s well worth choosing a vibrating cock ring, as these will really liven up your day.

A vibrating cock ring will send fantastic sensations through your penis and heighten your orgasm. Why choose a basic one, when it could do this?

4. Share the pleasure with your partner

Cock rings aren’t just a sex toy to be used on your own, they’re great shared with a partner too!

A cock ring can add to your experience when you’re having sex, but the vibrating cock rings can do wonders for your partner too. So why keep it all to yourself, why not liven up your sex and share the pleasures!

5. Getting it off

Cock rings shouldn’t be left on for too long and you certainly shouldn’t fall asleep wearing one. If your penis goes cold, seems to be losing feeling or goes numb, then it’s definitely been on too long and needs to come off pronto.

As a rough guide, 20 minutes should be the optimum time to leave a cock ring on. Don’t worry about taking it off, as you can always use it again very soon!

Sex against the wall...hot, hot, hot!

There’s a multitude of sex positions to choose from, which helps make sex interesting if you’re prepared to give them a try, but is there a position that you find the hottest?

According to a poll conducted by Cosmopolitan magazine, the naughtiest and sexiest sex position, as voted by both men and women, is sex against the wall.

They suggest that sex against the wall is hot because it evokes your primal nature, intensity and the need to have urgent sex.

For some women, the feeling of being pressed against the wall appeals, as they like to feel dominated by a man. Being against the wall provides minimal movement and they enjoy the vulnerability and excitement of having a man in control of their sexual experience.

An extra bonus that can heighten the experience is that, in this position, a woman’s pelvis will end up slightly lower than a man’s, which offers great opportunities for clitoral stimulation.

Varying Sex Against The Wall

Some people find it can take a bit of practice to perfect sex against the wall, but practice should make perfect.

There are ways you can vary it too, to gain a bit more control. For example, a woman could have just her shoulders or upper body leaning against the wall, rather than her whole body. This gives the opportunity to move your hips more, which increases both your sense of control and the sexual sensation.

Another interesting variation is to try doggie sex against the wall, where the woman faces the wall and her man comes up behind her. Again, it can take a few go’s to get the position exactly right, and you may need to bend your body at an angle for it to properly work.

Finding Your Hottest Sex Position

Of course, sex up against the wall isn’t everyone’s cup of tea and the chances are you’ll have your own hottest sex position.

If you don’t yet have a firm favourite, then there’s all the more reason to try out plenty of positions to pinpoint the hottest for you!

Don’t forget, you can always add sex toys into the mix to spice things up even further!

1. Pumpkin Seeds

Boost your sex drive with pumpkin seeds

These innocent looking seeds harbour a huge secret – they’re packed with the mineral zinc, which is essential for producing testosterone and boosting your sex drive.

Zinc plays a key role in many key bodily functions – it’s involved in your sperm count, helps keep the prostate healthy and plays a part in the production of semen.

What’s more, pumpkin seeds aren’t just good for men to eat, women can benefit from them too. Women who are deficient in zinc are likely to have a lower libido and be less interested in sex.

If you want to get these great seeds into your diet, you could toss them in salads, on cereal or toast them in a little oil to make a healthy snack.

2. Oysters

It's true, oysters are orgasmic-inducing!

Oysters have long been associated with natural aphrodisiacs and it’s not all down to fanciful rumours.

Like pumpkin seeds, oysters also have a high zinc content so really can play a part in increasing your libido.

3. Garlic

Garlic will help you get it up!

It may typically be something you think of avoiding eating if you’re keen to impress your partner with your fresh smelling breath, but actually garlic can have orgasmic inducing qualities.

Garlic contains something called allicin which is known to help improve blood flow around your body, including to the all important sexual organs.

Just remember to ensure you both eat the garlic though, so you don’t put your partner off with your garlicky breath!

4. Celery

Eat celery and drive women crazy

It may not seem like the most romantic food, but slipping some celery into the meals you’re making for a loved one could have a highly beneficial effect.

Celery contains an element known as androsterone and it’s great for enhancing male sexuality and sexual appeal.

When men eat celery, the androsterone hormone is gently released when men perspire and it’s the scent that’s known to make women crazy with desire.

If you’ve ever thought that a man smelt sexy, then it may well be because of androsterone. So, if you’re trying to naturally win over a woman or two, then get eating celery!

5. Goji Berries

Boost your libido with Goji berries

The taste of these strange sounding red berries can take a bit of getting used to. But it’s worth persevering with them, as they’re considered to be a natural Asian sexual libido booster.

That’s because Goji berries are famed for increasing the production of testosterone, plus they can have a beneficial effect on your mood.

Get naked in the grass

With the warmer summer weather, long balmy nights and the fantastic feel of the sun on your bare skin, thoughts may be turning towards the idea of trying sex outdoors. It’s a popular choice and can add an exciting new element into your sex life. But before you rush on out into the wilds, here are our top 10 tips for successful outdoor sex.

1. Know the law about sex in public places

Get the lowdown on outdoor sex

Before you whip off your clothes and have sex anywhere outdoors, it’s important to be up to scratch on the law about having sex in public places (you don’t want to get caught out like these people).

The exact terms of the law differs depending on the country you’re in. For example, in the UK, the Sexual Offences Act doesn’t say you can’t have any sex outdoors, but it does outlaw indecent exposure in a public place. If you get caught, you could face up to six months in prison. Similarly, engaging in sexual practices in public places is legislated by public order offences and could also result in a prison sentence.

Although it sounds harsh, this doesn’t rule out outdoor sex completely - it just means that you need to ensure a reasonable amount of privacy and pick your outdoor sex spots carefully.

2. Stick a blanket in the boot of your car

Get comfortable on a blanket

Spontaneity is also great and the unexpected is exciting, but amidst all the spontaneousness, a small amount of practicality is good too.

On a practical basis, depending where you’re going to be indulging in outdoor sex, you may need something comfortable, like a blanket, to lie on. It helps to put a blanket down if the ground is uneven, bumpy or uncomfortable. In addition, it’s handy if you’re doing it against a tree, as you can roll up the blanket into a cushion shape and pop it behind the back of the one leaning against the tree to relieve the discomfort of leaning against bark.

Blankets are also handy if you’re indulging in sex in the evening or at night, as you can snuggle down under the blanket too.

3. Watch out for farmers!

Watch out for farmers!

Good old fields in the countryside are a popular pick for outdoor sex, but watch out for farmers at work. As one couple discovered and told us, they can appear at the most inopportune of moments.

“We’d chosen a spot that seemed to be really well hidden and secluded - the kind of spot where we thought we wouldn’t be disturbed. We were naked and in full throttle enjoying ourselves, when suddenly we began to hear rustling sounds coming from the other side of the hedge.

“At first, we tried to shrug it off as simply birds or animals moving about, but at they continued we realised that there was someone there. Our carefully chosen spot turned out to be alongside a field where a farmer and his workers were busy harvesting their crops! It was rather a rude awakening and kind of threw us rather off track!”

4. Find fields that are free, so you don’t squash farmers crops

Find a comfortable spot

On a similar farming note, as much as you may love the romantic idea of making love in a corn field, farmers will be none too pleased if you squash their crops.

They’ve taken months to grow them and their livelihood depends on successfully harvesting and selling them, so do them a favour by bypassing fields full of crops - not least as it could be embarrassing to get caught having sex there (and anyone who has laid on corn can tell you it’s not comfortable!).

5. Read a map or check out maps online

Use a map to find your perfect outdoor sex spot

When you’re trying to find nice secluded spots for outdoor sex, it’s helpful to get to know your local area, or areas you’re visiting, in advance. It will save you time trying to hunt out the elusive spot when you’re dying for a shag, and ensure you’re sure of where you’re going before you set out.

Our top tip for finding great spots is to get reading maps or checking out maps online. It should highlight any spots that are off the beaten track, but also offer insight into what might be in the surrounding area - where you could park, how far you might need to walk to reach the spot or if there are any major public buildings in the near vicinity.

It may sound like a lot of pre-sex planning, but it’s better knowing in advance that there could be a bridge or building nearby that overlooks your great spot before you get stuck in!

For some ideas of places where you could indulge in sneaky outdoor sex, check out this A to Z list.

6. Make a meal of it

Anyone for whipped cream?

Why not combine outdoor sex with the chance to enjoy an erotic picnic with your partner?

You could pack up some culinary delights to enjoy together, such as libido boosting foods (like oysters, bananas or chocolates), or take some luscious strawberries, whipped cream and some chocolate sauce….and let yourselves get carried away.

In fact, outdoors is one of the best places to get carried away with whipped cream and chocolate sauce, as you needn’t worry about accidentally dripping them all over the bedclothes. If you need to wash off afterwards, you could find a stream, the sea or river to take a dip in (skinny dipping, preferably).

7. Protect your skin with sunscreen

You may need more skin protection than this...

You’ll need more protection than this…If you’re going to be stripping off outdoors, especially during the heat of the midday sun, then don’t forget to protect your skin and apply sunscreen.

It’s especially important if you’ll be exposing delicate areas of your skin that don’t usually get to experience the sun, as you don’t want to end up with sunburn in uncomfortable places!

You could build applying sunscreen into your foreplay, as sensually applying sunscreen to your partners body could prove a pleasurable erotic starter.

If you need some shade from the full glare of the sun, then you could rig up a makeshift shade between trees, or use a sunshade or umbrella - it can double up to help screen off your sexual actions too.

8. Keep well hydrated with water

Cool off with skinny dipping

All that outdoor exertion, especially on hot days, can be exhausting and you don’t want to flake out too soon. So ensure you’re feeling in tip top condition throughout your outdoor activities, by keeping hydrated and drinking water.

Bottles of water are easy to take with you and, if things really heat up, you could even tantalise your partner by dripping cold water on their body.  Plus, keeping cool is a great excuse for trying out skinny dipping!

9. Don’t forget your lubrication or condoms

If you’re used to using lubrication and condoms in the bedroom, then don’t forget to have some handy when you’re enjoying outdoor sex too.

Many forms of lubrication double up as massage oils too, so you could have great fun massaging each other before the full-on sexual action begins.

10. And finally, have fun!

Sex outdoors can be so much fun

If you have any tips to add, then please leave a comment and let us know, or why not share your experiences of outdoor sex.

High heels and stockings, the perfect sexy combination

Men love them and women can feel sexy and powerful wearing them. But there’s now an even better reason to slip on your high heeled shoes, as experts claim that high heels can have health benefits too!

It used to be said that wearing high heels or stilettos could damage your feet, but there’s recently been a bit of a u-turn in beliefs. In fact, podiatrists are saying they’re now seeing more foot injuries in women who wear flat shoes a lot, like ballet pumps and flip flops. Although flat shoes can sometimes be more comfortable, they can also lead to problems such as foot pain, bunions, back ache and shin pain, especially if worn on a very regular basis.

Of course, wearing stilettos all the time can cause problems too, but there are apparently benefits of wearing one inch heels – not least for your sex life! Shoes with heels are said be kinder on your Achilles, can help ease the discomfort in your hamstrings and be better for your posture. Plus, Italian researchers claim women who wear heels may have more fun within the sheets!

If you’re dressing up for a seductive evening, or want to spice up your sex life, then high heels are a great look to go for. They can help make your legs look longer and more elegant, give shorter women a bit more height and look great with stockings and suspenders.

High heeled shoes needn’t be something you just wear out for an evening either – why not wear them when you’re having sex, too? Even if it’s something you’ve never tried before (and even if it feels odd to keep your heels on whilst in or on the bed), wearing heels can make women feel sexier and powerful. They add a bit of extra excitement to proceedings and you can also be assured that men love women in sexy high heels - it can certainly heat up the action in the bedroom.

What better excuse is there to go shopping for and get wearing those killer high heels!

Orgasmic woman

Experiencing spontaneous, intense orgasms on tap, without having to indulge in foreplay or have sex first, sounds like the ultimate dream. It’s hard to believe that for some women this really is reality!

Yes, it’s true. Some women really do experience involuntary orgasms, often with little or no stimulation, and they’re so intense, they can last several minutes.

How can orgasms on tap be possible?

As we all know, not all women are blessed with this amazing ability to have orgasms on tap. The reason behind it is a health condition known as persistent genital arousal disorder (or persistent genital arousal syndrome).

One of the more unusual health conditions, persistent genital arousal disorder was only first officially diagnosed in 2001. As the name suggests, women who have persistent genital arousal disorder are almost permanently in a state of arousal. Tasks and activities that most of regard as mundane and run-of-the-mill can trigger orgasms for them, like being in a car, on a train or having a vibrating mobile phone in their pocket.

Are women born with it?

It’s not necessarily something they’re born with – some women find that it just suddenly comes on, like one of the women quoted in this article. It can happen to any women of any age, although research suggests women in the 40s or 50s, or who are post-menopausal, could be affected more.

Surely it’s a great attribute, though?

As much as having orgasms on tap sounds great, for those who have the syndrome, they don’t always feel quite so blessed. As anyone who has lots of sex knows, it can be exhausting, so imagine the effects constant orgasms would have on you.

Some of the women featured herealso describe how being constantly sexually aroused actually had a negative impact on their relationships. Even though men may initially like the idea to have a permanently aroused female partner, not being ever able to fully satisfy her for long could get frustrating.

If you need extra help in the orgasm department…

For those in a different boat entirely, who find it difficult to achieve orgasm, they can be significantly helped by using sex toys. Vibrators, for example, are one of the best selling sex toys for women and help many women achieve great orgasms easily.

Care good for you dildo!

Like all sex toys, dildos need to be cared for and stored appropriately, not only to prolong their life and use, but also to keep them clean and infection-free. Here are our top 5 tips on caring for and storing your dildos.

1. To ensure you get the best out of your dildos you need to make sure you care for them.

If you’re using lubricants with your dildo, then you need to ensure you use the right sort. Water-based lubricants, for example, are usually fine with dildos made of all sorts of material, but wouldn’t be much use if you’re using a dildo in the shower or in water.

2. Each time you use your dildo, remember to clean it afterwards.

As well a way to clean your dildo!

This is especially so if you’re sharing your sex toys, as it reduces the risk of infections being passed from one person to another. Whether or not you’re sharing them, dildos should be cleaned off each time with a damp cloth and water, with an unscented wipe (e.g baby wipes) or with any special cleaner that has come with the dildo. Make sure it’s nice and dry before putting it away.

3. It’s important to regularly check your dildo for any wear and tear as damage can occur over time (or from frequent use!).

If it’s split, cracked or damaged in any way, you should replace the item with a new model. Even if damage seems minor, when it’s being used it could accidentally cause unpleasant injuries to your body, and no-one wants that, right?

4. When it comes to storing your dildo always remember to remove any batteries first.

This will help prevent the batteries from leaking or corroding, especially if, shock, horror, you don’t use it again for a while. It will also help prevent any embarrassing incidents, like your dildo unexpectedly turning itself on whilst hidden away in your cupboard or drawer! It’s hard to make excuses for loud buzzing sounds coming from odd places….

5.It’s also worth thinking about what to actually store your dildo in.

Take care of your dildo

If you’re building up a collection of several dildos or sex toys, then a special box or container is handy to keep them all in together. It’s also a good idea to keep plenty of spare batteries too, so you’re not caught out when you have a desire for some dildo action!