Sharing Fantasies and Enjoying Fantasy Play

Everyone has fantasies at some point and, even if you’re in a loving, stable relationship, it’s still normal and healthy to have fantasies. Some people, for example, get a thrill from imagining they’re being dominated, others dream of having sex outside or of trying different or unusual sex positions.
Sharing your fantasies with your partner can be exhilarating! It’s good to share and can enhance the level of trust you have between you. What’s more, talking about your fantasies can inspire and encourage you both to try new things together. If you are keen to indulge in something new, fantasy play can be a great way of experimenting.

Fantasy Play

Lots of couples opt to explore sexual fantasies and find themselves considering what most would say is ‘alternative sex’. Sex is healthy but some actions can be taken a bit too far. In order to have the optimal experience of sexual exploration it’s important for a couple to set some ground rules for play. Here’s how to do it.

Making Decisions

It’s utterly important to consider the types of actions you want to put into motion with your partner. It’s really a good idea to pick up a video or two to explore some things you want to do, as well as those that you don’t want to do.
Decide what you want to do, and then discuss it, show it if you have to. Communication is the key for successful sexual exploration.

Giving Thumbs Up

Don’t just assume that your partner will jump right into everything you want to do, they have a say too, and they may have some special requests to consider. Making sure that you both are consenting, you both agree on how far to go, the arousal, and the point of uniting is important.

The Contract

You and your partner must make a list of what you absolutely refuse not to do in whatever is usually practiced in the activity you’re opting to try.
It should be understood completely by all involved, and not broken. Never, ever in the heat of the moment take matters into your own hands, don’t decide to carry on, or follow ‘would be’ signals, and make a vow to stick to the plan. This list of no-no’s can serve as a contract, a promise to each other, and followed without question.

Rescue Words

Remember that you’re attempting things you’ve never attempted before, some of the activities you’ve chosen to try may not be right for you, and instead of yelling ‘stop’, a rescue word is best.
Choose something erotic because you don’t want to spoil the mood. Words like “that’s hot” or “cool me off” are acceptable as long as you both remember they are actually code words, a cue to do something else.

Celebrating

After the excursion is over, discuss it. Tell your partner how you felt, if you enjoyed it, highlights, what else you might like to try, ask your partner about the experience, and take the time to reconnect with each other. And don’t forget to thank your partner for being someone special!
Read more about sexual fantasies here - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_fantasy